Preparing for Catholic marriage

Start with the parish, make room for important conversations and plan for the life beyond the wedding.

Start with a conversation

Contact your parish early, before making nonrefundable commitments. Baptismal history, any previous marriage and other circumstances can affect the process. Discuss these privately with the priest or preparation team; a general checklist cannot determine a person’s freedom to marry.

Begin before fixing the dateArrange an initial meetingAsk about the parish’s preparation timeline and when a date can be confirmed.Share relevant circumstances privatelyDiscuss baptismal history and any previous marriage, including a civil marriage, with the priest or designated minister.Confirm documents and permissionsAsk what is required in your circumstances, how recent certificates must be and how to submit them securely.

Prepare for married lifeHave practical conversationsDiscuss daily responsibilities, finances, children, extended family and how you handle disagreement. Use the preparation program’s guidance.Complete the formation processPlan sessions, retreats or meetings and ask about accessible arrangements if needed.Identify continuing supportAsk where couples can find pastoral support and help when difficulties arise.

Plan the liturgy and practical detailsChoose with the parishDiscuss readings, music, ministers and whether the celebration will take place within Mass.Confirm arrangementsReview rehearsal, fees, accessibility, photography and guest information. Keep a clear record of agreed details.

Questions to bring to your parish

What must be resolved before a wedding date is confirmed?
Which documents, preparation and permissions apply to us?
What support is available after the wedding?

The PDF has space to write your parish’s answers and dates. Personal details stay on your own copy.

Source & further reading

Catechism 1625–1637: matrimonial consent and preparation ↗

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